I remember how I loved singing along to Enrique’s song “I can be your hero” it was my all time favourite….
When I thought of writing this article, my ex had just called me to check up on me(there’s no need for bad blood) and he noticed that I wasn’t doing okay in as much as I claimed I was. So after a little more probing from him I opened up and told him that I was really worried about my friend, who was going through so much that I didn’t think she deserved. He still insisted that that wasn’t it, which was actually true.
I lost my best friend of 12 years to a gruesome road accident and it hit me so bad and let me just be honest, things will never be the same again. From then on, I withdrew form people and I pushed everyone away, even those that really mattered.
So I let my pain eat me up and I shut everyone out. I shared nothing with anyone, and when I began opening up, I felt a moral responsibility of being there for all my friends because I wouldn’t want them to die without knowing how much they really mean to me, sharing in their tears and always being there for them when they needed me most. But I still shut people out..
So after having a conversation with him, he told me that I had one problem
“You are always busy carrying other people’s problems you forget you had your own”
Which I came to realize is true. I felt a sense of emptiness and loneliness, sometimes anger for no reason or at nothing in particular. Sometimes I’d cry without any particular reason. Until I realised that you cannot always be everyone’s superman. Be your own superman. You need time to meditate on your own, reflect on your life. You need to share your problems with someone that will listen to you and comfort you. You need to be there for you.
Sometimes the little things that bother us, just need us to relax and meditate upon them and that works magic! Don’t go trying to be everyone else’s superman when you are not your own. You will make other people happy and be left sad and broken thinking that that’s all you deserve. Remember that you are your own superman…
Don’t get me wrong. Friendship is something I value a lot. I believe that friends bring out the beautiful things in each other that nobody else looks hard enough to find. I have those people in my life and I thank God every single day for them. But at the same time, you need to be your own hero. Have time for you. Do something good for you, dress well for 
you……do you…..
Be your own hero.
XoXo with love
Sheerow
