The hand that gives…

Screenshot_2015-11-27-17-00-14-1This is a saying that has been so common over time. I don’t know how you prefer to end this saying. I know I know…what is going through your head right now. The hand that gives, is the one that receives right? But you’ll be surprised to know that the hand that gives could be the one that receives or gets bitten in return, or could just get slapped. By the end of this article, you’ll probably have understood the reason as to why I say this.

Someone once said, that one is never wounded by the love one gives, only by the love one expects. Right there is where the problem is. Give followed by expectation of receipt. Whenever you give someone something, give not expecting anything in return, because what is going on through your mind as you give, may not be exactly the same thing that is going through the mind of the receiver. The more you expect much from people, the least you get and the more disappointed you get.

For me, the best times for friendships are not necessarily the best moments that you share, but rather, being there for them at the point when they need you the most. Friends may come and go in your life, but as long as I gave my friendship when they needed it the most, gives some satisfaction that at least I was there when they needed me and they have moved on. Your joy should come from that point where they are happy even if you are not a part of their life anymore. Give your friendship and time, not expecting to get anything in return. Doing good is not costly. It is just an amazing thing. If you love, love not because you want to be loved in return, but because it is all you have to give.

So don’t get angry if they do not reciprocate your love, or gifts, if anything, just keep giving. There is a blessing that comes along with it. My late best friend of 12 years always forgot my birthday, and remembered it for the first time this year, before her demise(I know she is in a better place now) and I never ranted about it because our friendship was much more than that. I know it sounds crazy, but yes, giving should never be followed by the words expectation and receiving. If it was up to me, I would say that the hand that gives, should keep giving.

XoXo with love


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