Hey guys. So it’s Christmas and about 5 days to the end of the year. Everyone is excited that a new year is here. I on the other hand am seated and waiting to see what 2016 holds for me and where God is leading me. I am usually not big on new year’s resolutions really, but I love taking time to reflect on the events of the year and looking at the experiences I have had and what I have learnt. Here are some.
1. You are never hurt by the love you give, only by the one you expect to receive.
You find yourself in a situation where someone never reciprocated your love and you say “…it hurts that I loved them so much…” No honey, it hurts that they never loved you the way you did.
Love unconditionally, without expecting it in return. It hurts less and gives satisfaction. Try it! 🙂
2. Take 5 steps back.
I found myself in situations where I made hasty decisions, where I ended up feeling as though I am covering 10 steps all at once and the world is on my shoulders. When it gets to that point, don’t be afraid to stop and reflect. Take 5 steps back, especially if it is something that is important in your life. Think about it like a Mathematical equation. If you got confused at step 5 of a sum, you’d have to go back and retrace your steps, find the mistake and solve the problem. Easy! 😉
3. Stay positive.
I had a crazy semester and trust me crazy is an understatement. For the first time in my academic life, I did one assignment for 22 straight hours, while being a teaching assistant, working with uncooperative group members, commuting from school to home where I use 3 matatus and a nduthi and trying to make it home by 8 and so many other responsibilities. It got to a point I had complete burn out the only thing my body had energy to do, was cry(I have those moments). The only thing that kept me going, was a positive attitude. My dad always tells me that when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Keep it positive.. 😀
4. It’s okay to be wrong.
Don’t try to show that you are smart. If you don’t know, then you don’t. We are not geniuses. It gives you an opportunity to learn something new. It doesn’t matter what others think. People will always talk whether you are right or wrong. Someone once said that the greatest prison that we live in, is the prison of wondering what people think about us. So just be you, do you and be open to learn. 🙂
5. We are all evil.
You see someone commit a crime and wonder how people can be so evil? Well, we are all evil. We don’t sin because sin is in the world, we sin because it’s in our nature. Why do we strive to be good? Because we are bad. So you don’t want to break up with that guy or girl you are tolerating because you don’t want to look like the bad one? Imagine you are bad. Just let go already and stop wasting each other’s time. I know it’s easier said than done but refer to point 3 and it will keep you going.
This should however not be an excuse for wrong doing. The Bible says that if you sin continually you steer away the Spirit. We don’t want that now do we?
(This point just needs a whole blog post): mrgreen:
6. Appreciate the people in your life and those around you.
I lost my best friend of 12 years this year and till now, it’s a wound that hasn’t healed. It made me realize how short life is, for you not to make the people in your life and those around you feel loved and appreciated. Tell someone thank you for opening a door for you or say hi to a random person.
Whenever I say hi to a watchman or compliment someone random, the smile on their face brings me joy. Wouldn’t you feel nice if someone did that for you?
Make someone smile everyday. It’s medicine to the soul.☺ 🙂 😀
Those are the major lessons I have learnt. In case I get others, I shall share. Feel free to share the lessons you have learnt.
Have a blessed holiday and don’t forget that Jesus is the reason for this season.☺
XoXo with love 😙